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It is a game changer!


Persistence & Resilience


So, I am massively into persistence! It is a game changer. Persistence increases your probability of getting a dance and making that $$$$ It is mathematics! When paired with resilience, it is a match made in heaven.

Because, it is all about BALANCE. Persistence and resilience perfectly complement each other! Yin and yang ❤️ Persistence is yang, the outer action, the doing, the movement, the dominant and masculine energy. Resilience is yin, your internal environment, stillness, the feminine and inner strength. It is one thing to PERSIST all night until the lights come on, that alone increases the potential to make bank! BUT resilience is the equal opposite, the complementary force that allows this to happen effortlessly and drives you to success.

Towards the end of the night our patience might get tested- like seriously tested! That is when it is important to draw on our internal stillness and be resilient to external pressures and situations. That internal stillness can keep your vibe high and when you do find that “perfect” customer and put your best foot forward and be an absolute pleasure to be around!

And that ladies and gentlemen, is what it’s all about!



Balance!


To work or not to work?! I know my friends and I drive anyone near us crazy, some nights, asking “Should I work?” I usually pick - work! Usually for fear of missing out (FOMO) or fear of scarcity????- crazy! Now, lately I have been exploring the absolute importance of BALANCE! In order to achieve balance properly, first of all, you need to listen to what you truly want and honour that. Make a clear decision and stick with it, otherwise you won’t get the benefit! If you work (and wish you were at home) you may not give your 100% - who wants an entertainer who doesn’t want to be there? If you stay home but wish you worked and the whole time wonder how much $$ you are missing out on - you ain’t relaxing and you may as well have worked. Instead of pissing everyone off saying, “aww I should have worked!” Pick one option and whole heartedly stick to it and remind yourself why you chose that!! No regrets! Each option is just as important as the other. ITS BALANCE! Trust yourself and either way, you will be ok ❤️



Take the time to replenish!


Our work can be taxing on our physical, energetical and emotional bodies. As entertainers, when we are doing our job really well, we are giving so much of ourselves. Even though we are taking payment, our industry is about giving, not receiving. Giving a fantasy, an experience, a show or even just giving an ear or a shoulder. We really need to take the time to replenish our mind, body and soul, so we can keep that dancer burnout at bay! Connecting with nature is a great way to replenish your Self. By absorbing the life force energy from the sun, earth and fresh air. Stillness and meditation are so powerful, to help regain mental strength and clarity as you reconnect with Self and universality. Of course fitness and healthy food, help to keep you not only looking great but also help to nourish your mind, body and soul. Everything is interconnected. How do you like to replenish?



You become what you think!


I remember as a baby stripper, being so impressed by this amazing, successful seasoned stripper. I just had to ask her how she did it? (I was in awe, and I couldn’t believe how much money could be made in one night.) I asked her; “How do you make so much $$?” She replied with one short sentence; “You have to believe you are worth it!” This changed everything for me! For some this is easier said than done!

This is an extremely complex topic. For me, it was a long road to unlock this belief of myself. It was full of ups and downs, self-enquiry, faking it till I made it and lots and lots of hard work! It certainly didn’t come naturally. One of the simplest and most powerful tools to help strengthen your self-belief/ self-worth, is autosuggestion and how you talk to yourself in general! Your unconscious mind is completely open to suggestion. If you are talking to yourself in a negative way, you will create a negative mindset and attract negative outcomes. Alternatively, if you talk to yourself positively, you will create a positive mind set and attract more positive outcomes. So be kind to yourself! Remember, you are worth it! ❤️



If you choose to feed your confidence, you will starve your fear!


CONFIDENCE is such a familiar topic which can come up in everyone’s lives. I have personally struggled with self-confidence issues for a good part of my life and in the process I have learnt a lot about how it works and affects us. I have written a lot on this topic and so I will just write a snippet here and continue another time on separate posts. I do love this topic as when we make changes and improve our self-confidence, our whole lives change and of course our incomes sky rocket! As confidence is sexy as hell! Confidence is in all of us. We all have it, even though we may think we don’t. We may think “I’m not a confident person, and that person is, etc.” We all have times we feel confident, there may be a certain activity which makes us feel confident and other activities that don’t and we may instead find that we feel nervous or scared or any other emotion based in fear. Confidence and fear are like yin and yang. Where one lives, we do not find the other. They are perfect opposites. They are linked and they have a dance. You may find that by practice, you can reduce fear and increase confidence. It is like training a muscle at the gym. When trying new things including, new approaches or new hustle techniques for example, confidence is always followed by fear and fear is always followed by confidence, especially when we push ourselves outside of our comfort zone. It is a natural progression. There is a tiny snippet lol, I find this applies so much to work, as I will elaborate in later posts, however, where do you find your comfort zone starts and ends? Do you have a certain demographic you like to approach when hustling? Do you ask absolutely everyone in the room, or do you skip certain people for example, or couples and big groups etc? Is that selectively based in feelings of confidence and fear?



Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom; mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power! -TAO TE CHING.


This quote is so powerful! It is from ancient Chinese wisdoms and I absolutely love it! It goes a lot deeper than I was anticipating to write about. I want to focus on the fact that we are our own products. As we are essentially selling our time, company, energy and vibe as our personal service. We, as entertainers, are our own product. In order to sell a product well, we must know the ins and outs of said product. We must know our strengths and weaknesses, then we can work towards minimising our weaknesses and call attention to our strengths, consciously, whilst making a sale/ hustling. This wisdom c